So you set goals for yourself for 2020. But already you’re hitting obstacles that are starting to make you slip a little bit.


You’re not alone.

If you’re hitting a bump in the road already, or think you might soon, here are some quick tips on ensuring you remain committed to the plan you made for yourself on January 1st.

Don’t do it alone

Making big changes alone is tough. It’s the reason people hire coaches, team up with workout buddies, or start going to AA, for that matter.

And what better person to make a change with than your partner.

Let’s say you have a mild drinking problem and decided to do no booze for two months. If you live with your partner and he/she pulls out a bottle of wine every evening, it’s only going to tempt you, and even potentially make you resentful. Or if you’re planning on spending less money this year and your partner is constantly pushing to buy new gadgets or go out for meals, it’s going to be incredibly tough for you to stick to your plan. And, of course, if you’re trying to commit yourself to fitness and your partner is a sloth, well, let’s just say it’s an uphill battle.

Even if your partner wasn’t part of your original plan, getting him/her on the same page as you working for something collectively beneficial together will really help you stick to your goal. Let’s just say waking up at 5:00 a.m. for a 5:30 a.m. group class or personal training session will be a whole lot easier if you’re not doing it alone…

Make a List

Oh, the satisfaction of crossing things off your list!

Writing down your goals is a tremendous help when it comes to following through. Let’s say your goal is to read one book a month this year. Crossing the name of the book you read off your list each month—in a place that’s visible to you—will be a constant reminder to reach for your book instead of your phone for a 30-minute Instagram scroll as you’re laying in bed.

The same is true if you’re making a diet change: Food journals go a long way in keeping you accountable.

Talk about it out loud

Though you might be tempted to keep your goals to yourself, expressing them out loud to people will make them more real and essentially put pressure on you to follow through.

Nobody wants to tell their friend, ‘I failed,’ when he asks how ‘No booze January’ went. You’d be surprised how willing people are to support you in difficult changes when you speak about them openly and honestly. Don’t be afraid to talk about the struggle!

A set back doesn’t mean you failed

Let’s say you do cheat on your diet. Or you miss a week at the gym. That doesn’t mean it’s done and you should give up. It just means you messed up for a brief moment in time. That’s the perfect time to regroup and get back on track.

You don’t stop putting deodorant on for a month just because you forgot one morning. The same is true of life change; get back on the path.


Let’s say you set yourself a goal to get a muscle-up by the end of the year. It can be really easy to get to March and still feel far away from that muscle-up. It’s important to set smaller goals—milestones along the way—that can provide as much satisfaction as reaching your ultimate goal will.

This is, of course, what your coach is for. If you have a fitness goal but are unclear of the milestones you will need to achieve before you reach that ultimate goal, talk to your coach to put a plan in place to help you enjoy the journey, and the small accomplishments along the way to your ultimate prize.

Stay the course.